Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Dance Dilemma & 30 x 5 Update


So how is Phase 2 coming along? I'm still plodding along on the elliptical, just waiting for Spring to show up, like a baby that's four weeks overdue. I want to be outside! Rain, rain, rain. It's time for an environmental C-section.

Challenges, challenges:

How's the approximate 100 cal deficit going? I'll be frank with you: I'm stinking at this, but I'm not giving up. For instance, the good news: today at Red Lobster I had only one Cheddar Bay Biscuit. The bad news: each biscuit is 160 calories, so if I had not had even one, I would have been truly better off. There is no nutritional value in one of those biscuits, just taste bud-heaven value.

Tomorrow, the entire church staff is taking all of the ministry assistants out to lunch for Secretaries' Day. I think we're going to Chilis. I'm going to have the Guiltless Buffalo Chicken Sandwich for 386 calories, Alex, but what shall I have on the side?? Steamed vegetables, yes? Good choice, as long as they're not smothered in butter or oil when they come out.

One tip I'll share: when I'm trying not to snack, sometimes I suck on a Halls Eucalyptus cough drop thingy because it's so strong, I don't want to eat eucalyptus-flavored snacks. You're welcome.

So keep at it, and if you haven't seen Greg's workout videos, you should go cheer him on. Go Blue Team! (Blue = Boy)

Dance Dilemma













I have a daughter enrolled in a dance class which is getting ready to compete after a whole school year of rehearsing one, single, solitary dance. I just saw the dress rehearsal and am uncomfortable with the costumes and some of the dance moves.

Just look at those pics. We always chuckle at the first one, calling it her "no neck" picture, although we think it's adorable. And then there are last year's pics, which are OK, just "dark." But at least big, baggy sweatshirts are modest. And at least the black thing on her face isn't a "666." (I'm always so able to see the positives in life.)

Oh moms of little girls, look away. No, you should probably looky here. For many of you, this is what's known in literary circles as "foreshadowing." Because you, too, may end up with little dancing girls who turn into bigger dancing girls, and you may find yourself fighting the contemporary culture, the secular world view, and you, like me, may feel like a middle aged catfish trying to keep your little catfish out of the koi pond at Hugh Heffner's estate. I have no idea where that image came from, except maybe from the same place that brought us "environmental C-Section."

You're probably thinking that the teenaged girl and I are nose to nose in disagreement over this conservative discomfort, but you would be wrong. We are actually thinking along the same lines, but I, of course, am more conservative than she is because at 16, she doesn't feel the need to protect herself, but I, the MOTHER, do feel the need to protect her and teach her not to ignore the discomfort, which is serving as a moral compass. You could say I "feel the need to heed" the Voice in me saying, "Uh, what is wrong with this picture?" But I don't want to be seen as that one dance mom who goes ballistic when she doesn't like something.

The dilemma, then, is how to handle this situation that completely frustrates me at the studio with grace and tact. I'll let you know how it all works out. (When I have the party where I burn the costume.)

31 comments:

Mimi said...

Your daughter is so pretty!
I'm doing pretty good on the challenge. I gave up toast for breakfast with my egg, and I survived. I walked for 30 minutes and did a lot of housework, which I think is a good workout!
One day at a time...

H-Mama said...

i have a lil' girl who wants to be back in dance. the first enrollment scared me at the dance recital. i didn't like what i saw. is this really what is to come of my little girl... with the costumes and dance moves?? i think i'll research a more conservative group soon. ;)

as for the 30x5, go read my latest on what my new project is that i've added to kick myself in the boo-tay. it's all self-inflicted of course. lol...

The Davidson Den said...

Yeesh. Glad it isn't me??? Yet. This is the very reason THIS former cheerleader will be homeschooling her daughter rather than giving her the opportunity to wear halter tops and teeny skirts (like her mommy) that allow the world to see underneath each and every time she MOVES. I was truly naive enough to think I was out there because our team NEEDED my "spirit" to drive them to a victory! Gag me. :)

skoots1mom said...

my dd is getting ready for a show, too...the end-of-year chorus spectacular, and it also include choreography. There's a teacher sub-committee overseeing the acts and so far they haven't gone overboard. I feel for you...dance is so expressively lude in today's interpretations and costuming...praying you up!

MelanieNewYork said...

I'll supply the matches. ;>) Let us know how it goes!

Becky said...

"It's time for an environmental C-section." ROTFL... what color is the sky in your world?

Kiah will now be taking piano, thank you very much!

A Stone Gatherer said...

Oh I don't like being in that position either! I pray God gives you words, and that your daughter continues to feel uncomfortable in situations like this!

"Just Me - NC Beth" said...

I recall many years ago I was teaching a sunday school class of college/career aged people and I had one that had grown up there in the church and was very talented in so many ways, drama, song, etc.

One day the lesson was about how as christians, we are to portray ourselves that way..been too long for the actuals here but as an example I remember saying something sort of directed to her that if she was offered a part in a play that required nudity in some form she would not do that because as a christian that was against our beliefs. She quickly told me differently, that it would not be "her" because she would be acting, not being herself but acting out "someone else" so that would make it okay! I was shocked!! I attempted to "argue" with her about it...but her mindset was if it's "not reality" it's okay....

~Beth

Mrs. E said...

Many moons ago when I was the dance sponsor for our school team, a mother (also Board memeber) told me that I shouldn't censor the girls' moves for dance routines. I objected to 16 year olds looking like hookers. I was too conservative. She suggested that these moves were something I would do in our bedroom at home. (Yeah, that is what I want to see on the football field! And by the way, I don't dance for my husband!) I lost all respect for her and her daughter that night. Sounds like your pretty daughter has her head on straight. Glad she has a mom with a good head on her shoulders. And yeah-- BURN that costume and discuss swim team or voice lessons!

Susan D said...

You're always good for a laugh! ...environmental C-section! Where do you come up with this stuff?

I'm doing better this week on my 30x5. Sunday my step counter logged over 10K and yesterday was over 12K w/the 30 minute walk. Plus, my w/d is in the basement so I'm getting additional exercise there. For lunch & dinner yesterday, I ate smaller portion sizes PLUS I haven't given in to the urge to eat the potato chips and Snickers I've been craving.

Who can resist Red Lobster biscuits? seriously! Blessings, SusanD

a Tonggu Momma said...

We got Wii Fit... I'm going to use it for the first time today. Pray for me.

sara said...

check out my blog today for how 30x 5 is going.

and let us now how you work it out. In this culture I would venture to say there are a lot of moms out there facing this and would love advice!!

Sheri said...

I just found your Blog and am loving it! I'm not sure if you have ever heard of Spark People, but it is a free online diet community website. I am on it and got a few of my Blogger buddies hooked too. I have a link on my Blog if you wanted to check it out and be friends on there too. :)

Heth said...

That's a tough one Linda. I don't think should go so far as to call yourself a middle aged catfish though. How about angel fish? They don't have whiskers.

Mocha with Linda said...

Wow, you ran the gamut on this one.

I feel for you on the dance thing. My girl took one year of dance when she was 4 - after the recital we were done. The song they danced to (or tried to; it was pretty cute to watch these beginners) was a Playboy Bunny song. I saw some of the sleaze the older girls were doing and said "no way". But a friend had her daughter in a studio that was more classical.

Be encouraged that you've raised your girl right and she does feel discomfort. Praying y'all will both have wisdom in what to do.

Debbie said...

I was always the Mom that the liberal parents called "over protective" and rolled their eyes up at. But if you talk and explain things carefully to your daughter and let her know why you have a gut feeling about an issue, pick the right things to stand firm on, and give in to the harmless things...it all turns out fine. Except...you'll always have other parents telling you how to do it better. LOL!

Merrie said...

I have been horrible with the moving and cutting 100! I hate to admit it. I have been outside working in the yard and we have had so much stuff going on at the house that I just haven't been able to "move" in private. This causes stress which causes ummmm eating. I do cut back and not eat the 4th cookie or 3rd piece of candy or 2nd piece of cake... I have also been able to leave half my salad before I inhaled the 465 calorie main course!

About the dance thing. Hey, you have a God given right and mandate to protect your little one AND you also have paid for the dance lessons and costume and so do not let the devil/peer pressure, etc. cower you down! Stand up... who knows, you may be helping other moms who are just as "uncomfortable" as you are and possibly setting a higher standard for the other girls and the dance classes...
Never be afraid of "being THAT mom" because you ARE that mom who was given a precious little one to protect...

end of sermon...

Shawna said...

Cough drops, hmmmm? Good tip. I like to turn to beverages in lieu of food...like green tea with a little honey and lemon. And I swear, drinking a Slim Fast for breakfast, even I only replace that one meal, really curbs my appetite for the rest of the day. And just staying busy and active. I really appreciate you getting us all started on this challenge.

And I'm so sorry about your dance class situation. That's why Kaya isn't taking dance, although she'd love it. They're wearing skimpy outfits and doing nasty booty shakes at 4. Not MY child! I don't care if I am an old, conservative catfish. So be it.

mtnest423 said...

Not doing so well on the 30x5-100 challenge this week. It's hard to give up an extra 100 when I'm already eating minimum calories - although if I look hard enough I'm sure I could find something to give up. :)

Your daughter's situation reminds me of the runner-up Miss USA flap. Sometimes when we take a stand in something we believe in, we have to give up something we think we really want.

Praying for wisdom...

Lois Lane II said...

Part Two is going MUCH better than Part One, haha!

Chatty Kelly said...

Do let us know how you work out this dance dilemma (I have 2 daughters so ay be blazing the trail behind you. )

I'm working on my work outs. I'm trying to be conscience of what I eat, and not just ramming in food.

Greg C said...

I did 40 minutes this morning. I think dance is really exercise at least when I dance. I am planning my next video so make sure and check it out in a day or two. :) Yo Linda, I mean Adrien. :)

Debbie said...

I am doing terribly on our challenge. Even worse than last time. Oh well.

My ADHD Me said...

I used to get melancholy because I don't have a daughter.... but there are some days when I think it is probably a blessing.

I can't imagine how I would react if my daughter brought home someone like, umm, my son!

30X5 results. OK, I am starting phase 1 over. I am on day 3 and am doing 20X5 on the WII fit.

fransmomma said...

i love the cough drop idea and it made me think of another tip...
mint extract!
i put it in my water-just a few drops per liter does the trick. it makes my water "taste" better, if you can really even call it a taste. and it makes my breath minty which also keeps me from wanting to eat anything. cool, yes?

anxious to hear how the dance thing pans out.

Susanne said...

I'll be very interested to hear how it goes with the dance studio.

Meanwhile I think your a very good middle-aged catfish mama looking out for her baby catfish. And that koi pond at H.H.'s estate needs to be drained, in MHO!

samurai said...

I am failing miserably at the 30x5 challenge. :-( So much so, that you should probably remove my name from the list of participants.

Praying for a magnificent success for all the rest though! \o/

skoots1mom said...

just finished: 20-min/4mi bike; 12-min elliptical; upper-body free weights (granola bar breakfast instead of the eggs&bacon I wanted...always find the positive twist: more fiber, less fat and NO dishes to clean!)

Claire said...

I'm in the same boat with my dd, so I have no advice. I'll just say that we switched studios when I saw some sleazy costumes happening, and her current studio seems to be more conservative. So far, I haven't had to object to anything, dance moves or costumes.

Dena said...

One of my girls is now on the college dance team, and I'm here to let you konw that it doesn't get any easier on us moms (or the daughters) once they are of age.

What I've told my daughter is that unfortunately we have no say in the costumes or dance moves. However, I want her to embrace her "uncomfortableness" (Yep ~ my word, like it?), because once she stops feeling that way when doing certain moves, she have given up some of her values.

MSM said...

Giving up 100 calories - EASY! - because I'm trying not to eat over 1200 a day in order to lose weight - NOT Easy.

I don't envy you the dance dilemma. It does sound like it's just time to go to Disney and come back and take up piano. :)