Tuesday, September 02, 2008

My Son Goes to College, Part 2















I'm not going to kid you, it was a rough weekend. My second child, my only son who has been with us all summer, is now back at school. Sigh.

The adjustment is not as difficult as last year, of course. It's just that my middle child is the life of the party in our family. Yes, he often annoys his sisters with his poking, tickling and singing [see pic], but when he's not around, there's a piece of the puzzle missing. Like mashed potatoes without salt, we were a bunch of bland boiled potatoes around here this weekend.

One of the things he likes to do to crack me up is speak to me, his English major mother, in a very high-pitched, nasally, affected Shakespearean actor's voice. It sounds just like the recordings of MacBeth's witches that I heard in high school English class. So instead of just asking me normally, he might say, "Mothah, has thou doest my laundry whence thou didst upon my sovereign brow?" I guess you'd have to hear it to get the full weird-out effect, but he won't let me tape him. I know that if I'm on my death bed and he starts doing this, I will come back to life just to die laughing.

His other favorite thing is to sing, particularly goofy 80s songs. Unless you know him really well, you'd never guess this, because he's all athletic and serious around most people. But he discovered this song and then this video, which completely slayed him (I know that "slew" is correct, but who says "slew" in an informal blog post?) and he has sung it at the top of his lungs all summer long, probably at least once a day. Even the name "Dexy's Midnight Runners" cracks him up, but not as much as the guy continually putting his arms over his head while wearing his denim vest, rolled up pants, loafers and bandana around his neck. Usually Kristin joins in singing along with him. Or we all do. Because who doesn't want to sing about Eileen??!

So I'm not going to think about missing Jordan. I'm going to remember the summer of Eileen. And then ... because the fam loves "Psych," I included an outtake from that show where Shawn and Gus sing "Come On Eileen." Get ready to have your 80s socks rocked off.



32 comments:

Smilingsal said...

He sounds like a special son.

LisaE said...

I have a girl and two boys. My middle boy is easy going, fun-loving one of the bunch. His teachers always wrote every year without fail..."Zach is a joy to have in class." He is 24 now and I remember when he decided to move out it all of a sudden hit me that this was the end of my time with him as we knew it then, my last chance to say some things that I wanted to say. Our other two kids are more intense and a little melancholy and I realized how much I would miss Zach's silliness and his belly laugh (had this belly laugh since infancy) :) I was in the car and heard a song by Joni Mitchell called The Circle Game... "So the years spin by and now the boy is twenty
Though his dreams have lost some grandeur coming true
There’ll be new dreams, maybe better dreams and plenty
Before the last revolving year is through."- and I just started blubbering away. (Go ahead and listen to it Linda, it'll do you good.) :)I took the opportunity to sit Zach down and tell him how much he meant to me and that I was sorry that he was often overlooked in the chaos of the other two kiddos' personalities. I said that his positive outlook on life and his ability to find the humor in just about any situation has been an inspiration to me. He teared up and told me thanks and not to worry because I did just fine as a Mom. The other night he brought a movie over and we watched it together and laughed out loud...(something only he and I do in this family. The others look at us like..."WHAT?"
Every body needs a silly son to love.

Merrie said...

You are blessed! Thanks for the laughs in he middle of your loss... it does get "easier"... or you adjust, but you will forever miss him as he moves ahead in his life ... and you will cherish every minute you get with him.
God is good to us like that... not taking our kids away, but giving us the love and pleasure of them.
(rambly I know...)

"MoodyBlue" Jodi said...

Awww Linda, I'm sorry you are missing your son. My sisters both are going through the same thing. My one sister (the one with the kidney problem) has a 22yr old son at Rutgers but he is at an apartment now so he NEVER comes home even in the summer..maybe twice. My other sister has a 20yr old daughter at Rutgers and her 28yr old son moved out into his own apartment last year so that sister is really feeling it too. (((hugs))) to all of you. Even though I don't have any children I can only imagine how it must feel.

Susan said...

He sounds a lot like our DS 2. I know we'll miss his humor around here when he's gone.

Praying that all is well with you this week as you all adjust.

:-) Susan

Kim said...

I know our job as mommas is to give our children wings that they may fly.... but, doggone ~ what a difficult time of letting go. Thanks for sharing this story.... and the fun times your family have together! Great way to start the day with a big smile..... and a great reminder to those of us with children at home to hug them a bit extra today & to truly appreciate them!

Chatty Kelly said...

That was one of the songs I picked to play at my 40th birthday party in March! Love those 80's hits!

Have a good day. It's the first day of school for my oldest going into 4th. Preschool starts next week for my little one. Now I know it never gets easier.

Feeling your pain!

Mrs. Who said...

It is SO NICE to be close to your children and to enjoy doing things as a family. We went out to dinner Saturday night, then out for ice cream and enjoyed it so much! We have so many shared jokes and experiences, like your singing son!! I never take it for granted. I know many families are not this close.

And Psych? We LOVE it!! It is so underrated. The actors are perfect in their roles.

Ang baylis said...

Please beg him to let you tape him!:) (My son would never let me). I LOVE those precious times! I will keep you in my prayers, Linda! It's hard to let them go! I'm glad you had so many good times. My husband just heard the song and immediately began singing. I love how you put it... "mashed potatoes without salt"! It sounds like he got your sense of humor!
Much love,
Angie xoxo

Greg C said...

My kids say I embarrase them with my hamming it up so I have to refrain from doing that. I did turn the camera on my son yesterday and saw a side of him I never knew existed. He actually got silly.

annie's eyes said...

We have the same dynamics around here with one son and two daughters. It's back to me and the dog, and Closet Kitty, and I must say, it is WAY TOO QUIET. Still learning to say goodbye--it's never easy. Thank you for stopping by today. That was a hard post to write. Love you, Annette

Dena @ Green Acres said...

He sounds like such a great son. You are very blessed! We had to say goodbye to our jokester after the long weekend too. She has been at college for 2 weeks before coming home, and it just wasn't a long enough weekend to feel caught up again. It's great to know they are loving where they are, but would it kill them to at least pretend to miss us? LOL

Marina said...

Oh, Linda you are making me cry my son is in 1st grade to think some day he well leave me and his day to hopefully go to college makes me cry sniff,sniff, marina

2nd Cup of Coffee said...

Dena: Yes, yes I think it would kill them.

The Bayou Belles and Their Beau said...

First of all, how does he even know that song? He looks like a baby.

And that 2nd video cracked me up.

sara said...

I am so with you on this Linda! We had such a great time with our boys yesterday, but it is never the same without ALL of them there. I dread our middle boy leaving..he is also the life of the party around here! Some days, though, it can't come quick enough! ha!

Mocha with Linda said...

I will come back to life just to die laughing.

You always make me smile.

Sorry you are missing your boy.

Kelly @ Love Well said...

This made me laugh at your son's brilliance -- and cry for myself, just a little. My middle child, my only son, is currently playing with his baby sister in the other room and excited about starting three-day-a-week preschool tomorrow. He already cracks me up, and I know the day will come very soon when he takes his brand of special outside my home.

samurai said...

I laughed at your pizza story... i mean, they could have made your order in the amount of time you were on hold i think.

Your son sounds like a very well balanced young man. That arrow should travel well - if you kwim.

V said...

I can share your heartbreak. I love my two and can be very emotional, crying at Halmark commercials, etc., but when my daughter left for college on the other end of the US, I was so proud of her, the accomplishment, the bravery and doing what she was supposed to, I didn't shed a tear. When my son left the first time, I was tough again. After 1 1/2 years, he came back to us having realized his party was wasting time and money. Now 2 1/2 years later he has left again and I really was sooooo sad. I know it's right. I know he's ready. But I know too just how much he lights up our home and it is dull without him. At least, I am doing better than the dog who lies by the door and looks heart-broken.

Ballerina Girl said...

Love this song...well, at least every image and memory that comes with it.
and who even knew that slew was a word besides English major folks....LOL!
Sorry to hear that you are without your son, I hope he stays in touch often!
BG

Susanne said...

My youngests comment to the first video. "Ewww, you guys like this? Ewww, weird". LOL.

My heart is knit with yours on the rough weekend. It was definitely a boiled potato,no salt weekend here too!

Breanne said...

I am having a hard time with MDO. I cant imagine dealing with college.

Laurie Ann said...

I'm praying for you! It's a tough thing, that's for sure. Somewhere in the blink of an eye Kristyn went from first grade to college just like that!

He sounds as hilarious as his Momma. Loved the videos, too!

Laurie Ann said...

P.S. I tagged you - http://magnoliaheartbeats.blogspot.com/2008/09/me-to-z-taggedive-been-tagged-by-lea-of.html

Dkcavitt said...

One-You too young to have children in college.

Two-My youngest son moved to CA in May and he calls me while he is in LA traffic. By the way, his first ticket was because he was holding his cell phone. He went to Target and bought all the stuff so he can still talk to him.

Three- You just sold me Mustard Seeds!

dkcavitt

Roxanne said...

The pain and the glory all mixed together. . .

And I loved your "unsalted boiled potatoes" analogy--so true.

Lindsay said...

Well, I can't relate in the fact that my kids are 3 and 2...but I can relate in the fact that I FEEL like I just left college. I drive by my old school almost everday and when I saw all the "kids" moving in just last week it made me miss it soooo much!!! What a great time in his life. He sounds like a great/fun loving guy. Way to go, mom! :)

Marina said...

Oh, I miss the baby picture he is sooooo, cute ") don't you just love having a liitle boy they are so cute ") love, marina

jennifer said...

Oh, I pray that Baby Charlie will grow up to be a crazy, goofy, fun-loving, young man. Fun, fun, fun!

Beverlydru said...

This line, "I know that if I'm on my death bed and he starts doing this, I will come back to life just to die laughing" is priceless. What a way to express yourself. I'm with you sister on the kids grwoing up and leaving thing. Our son was the one to eat everything I cooked, even the kiln-baked dinners and say, "Aw, Mom, it's good to me!" What a gift.
And I close with SImon and Garfunkel: "To everything, turn turn turn, there is a season...."

Connie said...

Your son has an awesome personality. Love it! I think he got it from his mama! I know what you are feeling...another stage of life. At least you still have someone at home. It gets quieter still when they ALL leave! Have a good weekend!