Saturday, March 06, 2010

The Case Against Parents on Facebook

I am collecting my favorite Facebook updates to share with you from time to time. Status updates are simply mini blog posts, but most users don't realize that.

Here is one that cracked me up because it perfectly portrays why kids don't want to converse on FB with their parents. The second example is my own.

From "A Mom":
Hi honey, it's Mom, am I writing on your wall or have I messed the facebook thing l You can't reach me on my phone because apparently since Michael's phone broke, Olivia needs mine until Friday and when I ask why I can't have mine and she do without, she replies that I am much too dependent on it! Does that seem right ?...

From College Daughter:

Oh my gosh. Exhibit A on why adults should not be allowed on facebook.

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Me, on my son's FB page:

I love you and am proud of you! Is that too personal for FB?!

Jordan:

Only because we have other ways of communicating besides facebook!

Me:

Yes, but that's not broadcasting my feelings, which is the point!

So there you have the case against parents commenting to their kids on FB. Little does my son realize that I plan to wish him a BIG Facebook happy birthday on Monday, his 21st birthday. I'll shout my birthday love to the world!!! (Groan.)

24 comments:

Mary said...

I did the same thing to my son (who is now 21) on FB! Isn't that why we had kids: to embarrass them?
Love reading your blog!

Lelia Chealey said...

haha! This is so good Linda! When I was on FB, Alyssa constantly told me that she was going to "de-friend" me no matter what I wrote and especially if she saw a "Gene and Lelia Chealey likes this". So, being the mature mom I am, I would just threaten to "dis-connect" her phone line if she ended our FB friendship. She then called Sprint, got her own account and de-friended me. Tough week that one was. lol...
Happy early b-day to your son!!!!

Cathy said...

Well being able to broadcast to everyone is what makes it so fun!! lol

Mrs. E said...

Yep, Mom's on FB is about as good as Teacher's on FB: Be sure to study for your test tomorrow!! They love us!

Jeanette said...

Those exhibits could also be used against the kids using Facebook :}

I have to laugh at the first one because my kids know if they touch my phone I'll blow a gasket (they kept changing my settings and it would take me hours to get it back they way I liked it - picky phone!)

Exhibit #2....like the kids don't have a million other ways to communicate. Texting?? Emails?? or simply calling someone (gasp!) AND all of those AFTER they JUST saw that person IRL (in real life for those novice texters)

I say let the old folks stay on Facebook! It keeps us in touch with what our kids are REALLY up to :}

Keetha Broyles said...

Fun stuff.

Here's another case against parents on facebook - - - some of us DON'T WANT TO KNOW all that our offspring are doing.

I personally find the whole thing way too random anyway, and avoid it like the plague.

Give me blogging.

Carmen said...

This is so funny. I have a file in documents called "FB conversations." I completely forgot about it. There's 2 entries in it. This one tickled my funny bone...it's of my son and a friend. My son looks a lot like his boss, and the friend is just funny!

Chris:
so my boss comes to work the other morning and starts telling us of this chick he saw while he was driving, and she was wildly waving at him as if she knew him. then i get this mean text of some girl mad at me for not waving, could you ask around to see who it was??????

Bethaney:
Hey Chris, so I busted into the cop shop downtown and used their databanks to research said girl...apparently she's some tap dancer from way up north, did some time for looking too good but I guess she's loose again. I'll keep an eye out for her, don't worry man, I've got your back.
Oh, I should also warn you, she has a rap sheet longer than my arm with Facebook-associated psychotic incidences, so just don't let her near your Facebook, aight?
Peace man...sleep well tonight :D

As for parents and FB (and I know you're talking teenage children, but...I have a plethora of incidents with my Mom (she's 75 and I'm 51...I'm actually proud of her for braving a computer, let alone FB!)

O Mom said...

LOVE IT!!
When my daughter wanted to be on Facebook, I said sure as long as I can get one too and leave you all kinds of mushy mommy messages! ha!

Mocha with Linda said...

"We have other ways of communicating besides facebook!" - ah, but does he use them?!

Those are hilarious.

(And I hope he doesn't read your blog or else your Monday surprise is no longer a surprise!

noexcuses said...

This is all so funny! Three of my four have friended me, but only one lets me see his activity. I try to sneak in via their friends, but like one of your commenters above, I don't really want to know everything.

Kudos to the mom whose mom is braving FB!

Great post!

G-Zell said...

My teen boys hate me leaving them stuff on their fb page LOL.. they are mostly on myspace.. I think because of it LOL....

Jeanie said...

Another great thing about all of today's technology....more ways for parents to embarrass their kids. I just didn't have this many options when my kids were teenagers.

Nel said...

Ohhh what they really love is when you find old pictures to share...lolol.

until next time... nel

Men Are Dumb. I Are One. said...

Great post! So true. My sister tried to tell my Mom to not post gushy posts publicly on her or my FB page, and - wait for it - my Mom got mad, and pulled the "I'm you're Mother, and I can do what I want" card. Sigh. I hope Mom doesn't discover Twitter for a long, long time.

Linda said...

YOu should totally share a picture of your son on fb! Maybe him in the tub with bubbles, or his first time in a wading pool with his Barney swimsuit?! ha ha

Betty said...

I totally know what you mean here. My daughter "enlightened" me, that parents seem desperate for attention if they comment too often or too quickly on pics or there kids pages. I took note. :)

bensrib said...

When I first got a facebook page, my college son was the first to write on my wall: "Is nothing sacred??"

Liz Haller said...

I got the biggest kick out of the comments! I signed up for FB so I could get photos of my grandkids in Georgia. And my younger daughter then 21 reluctantly added me as a friend, saying she wasn't sure it would be good to have her Mom as a friend.

Turns out I would not want to read her FB anyway...it scares me! So she's completely safe. And we text by cell the most. However, I can stay in touch with my other daughter better!

ageffert said...

Love this! My son (firstborn) tormented my daughters saying, "I don't have anything to hide. Why aren't YOU friends with Mom on FB?" They succombed. Nothing like a little sibling rivalry to shame a kid into permanently being embarrassed. Then, he accused me of "spamming his wall." Said something about chasing away all his friends. So, now he's made me a lurker.
It's really hard to be a cool mom!
Need a new support group now--FB Anonymous
PS is that coconut cake you made, also called Tres Leches? Sounds absolutely decadent!

Ginger said...

Haha! My son is a Jordon too, and though he does not have a FB, he would prob. kill me for that...
But I would shout those birthday wishes anyway too!

40winkzzz said...

when i got a facebook, my young adult kids didn't just not friend me-- they blocked me. one was still living at home so i could have pulled the "dad & i pay for the internet" card, but i didn't. i can understand not wanting mom as a fb friend... and if there's anything i really need to know about, my b-i-l tells me. ;-) my younger son is a different story, as i had a fb 6 months before letting him get one, and that was only on the condition that i am his friend. he is still at an age (14) where he doesn't mind me commenting, though i am careful not to overdo it. many of his friends who know me send me friend requests, and i accept them bc i think that is cute. :-) there is such a HUGE difference between 14 and 19!

oh, and you are right: fb status updates ARE mini-blog posts. at least mine are. sometimes i think i should compile my updates every couple weeks and post them on my blog.

Judd Corizan said...

On a totally random note, we ho[pe sometime that you'll play Sunday Stealing. We promise we will never steal a Random Dozen again! :) I learn fb years ago when my youngest was in college. It was the only way that I could get her attention! Enjoy your day.

Kim said...

I asked my kids about this but since they're both in their 20s, they said it doesn't really apply :-) They both like it when I comment occasionally on their facebook statuses (is that a word?). But I do try to restrain myself and only comment OCCASIONALLY. hahahaha

Connie said...

I resisted Facebook for a long time until my oldest daughter and a few friends said I should join. However, it took my youngest son (also turning 21 in a few days) a while to want to be my friend. He claimed fb was for younger people. I said I thought that's what myspace was for. I don't comment on his page that much to let him have his privacy. Anyway...I am now friends with all my kids, hubby, my siblings and even my mom at 73 years old. Who would have thought???

Connie